"My Fiancé of 3 Years Got More Than a Lap Dance at His Bachelor Party"

Bachelor and bachelorette parties are notorious for, err, shall we say, a little naughty behavior. But where is the line drawn between your soon-to-be-hubby bro-ing out with his friends, and going full on handsy with someone at a strip club? Reddit user Ham387 was just confronted with this very dilemma.

She posts that her fiancé and his friends went to the mountains for his bachelor party weekend, and while they were there, they went to a strip club—something she had previously told him was A-OK. However, "a few of his friends got a little carried away at the strip club and paid for [her] fiancé to get some alone time with the stripper. The stripper basically jerked [her] fiancé off..." Um, yikes.

Clearly, she was upset by the fact that her fiancé allowed a stranger to do something to him that was much more intimate than a lap dance. But since she gave him the go-ahead to go to a strip club, she's wondering if she should really feel betrayed.

Her fiancé claimed he was coerced by his friends and didn't know what was happening when he entered the room, but does that excuse his behavior? Reddit users jumped in to help.

Here's what they had to say:

"There are no wrong answers to this, what matters is how you feel. If you feel that you can let it go and you still want to marry him then by all means go ahead. If you think it will be hanging over your relationship for ever then it's probably not fair on either of you to proceed with the wedding." —HugoRune1965

"I think some people probably want see him punished for cheating, and are afraid you could be taken for a fool by trusting him again. Those people don't know you, or your relationship though, so be wary of getting too caught up in the pitchforks. If you think you'll be happier with him, and you can move past it, then obviously that's the best decision for you." —hatefilled_possum

"I think boundaries should ALWAYS be discussed before someone's SO is going to a strip club. Always. Its one of the few ways to try to make sure nobody gets hurt." —biryanii

"Stripper of 6 years here. You should know that I've seen plenty of bachelor parties at strip clubs. Plenty of grooms do not get sexual favors, just lap dances. I've seen grooms shut down receiving sexual favors too. It's usually the grooms men who hook up with the strippers, even if a private room is involved. I would not forgive him. You should call the wedding off." —littleQOTSAlady

This post was originally published here: "My Fiancé of 3 Years Got More Than a Lap Dance at His Bachelor Party"

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